tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.comments2023-03-03T07:30:12.938-08:00That Which Is WrittenQuecumberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16707369292772350787noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-31574267073658073302013-01-21T15:32:31.546-08:002013-01-21T15:32:31.546-08:00 U know u have been used when someone borrows mone... U know u have been used when someone borrows money then ignores u for 3weeks.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-84993986236145100622012-11-24T23:17:36.225-08:002012-11-24T23:17:36.225-08:00What you have my friend, is a mixture of Dermatill...What you have my friend, is a mixture of Dermatillomania, and trichotillomania. <br /><br />I have been going through it myself. It's a b*tch.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17281959438016205570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-78158960082385684782011-12-23T11:15:06.613-08:002011-12-23T11:15:06.613-08:00I had a friend for years. Than we just quit talkin...I had a friend for years. Than we just quit talking. I got tired of paying for him mentally and physically. Out of know where he txting me and is asking for all these favors. I asked him what the deal was, why he was asking me for favors after 2-years of not communicating on a friend basis. I was confused that he was that stupid.He flipped flopped my question. So I told him to erase my number.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-62654807199433766172011-08-08T11:32:43.893-07:002011-08-08T11:32:43.893-07:00I found this post interesting as a friend of mine ...I found this post interesting as a friend of mine tried to use me for their own gain last night. It hurts and I am sorry that my friend couldn't just be honest, but they weren't honest because they knew they were trying to use me, which just disappoints me more. I hope I find other truer friends that will be honest about their needs. Needless to say I am lowering my expectations and time in friendship with this person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-64507691623038672692011-07-08T08:17:17.006-07:002011-07-08T08:17:17.006-07:00I have a question. I have been picking my hair out...I have a question. I have been picking my hair out since i was 14 or 15 but its gotten really bad now that i am planning my wedding and am a mother of a 1 year old beautiful baby girl :) I pick when i am stressed and i chew on the follicles at the end of the hair not for taste just like a bad habit of biting your nails i guess would be more comparison to why i do that. Anyways few and far between i get random follicles that have a little red ball at the end instead of black and its reeeally crunchy. I'm wondering if these hairs are normal and what it caused from...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-5299530546446954292010-01-11T14:23:51.796-08:002010-01-11T14:23:51.796-08:00There are some friends who are friends back to you...There are some friends who are friends back to you as well. I think to some degree, we all use each other- just some more than others and some in different ways than others.<br /><br />I had a less wealthy friend and a more wealthy friend. The more wealthy friend paid for almost everything for this less wealthy friend, but this less wealthy friend was seen as "entertainment" by the more wealthy friend. So basically, one friend paid for the entertainment of another friend... Eventually I think the entertainment was over used so the friendship slowed down, but both seemed to have a good time each time and still considered each other friends afterwords.<br /><br />Sometimes friends don't even realize they're using other friends... I think it happens most with materialistic people though, who are blinded by a thirst for "things." Most of society is either like or appears to be going in that direction unfortunately. Maybe we will be strong enough to change that.<br /><br />Whatever happens, just know that there are "real" friends out there. What you consider a friend may mature and become something different, but that doesn't mean a bond of friendship can't be equally as important in your life.<br /><br />Now that I'm married with child, I don't hang out with my friends as much any more and they have much less influence in my life, but I still value the short occasions we have. No matter how much time a friend can spend with me, I still value them as a friend- whether I've talk to them once a year or once a week. I'm not going to let time destroy the bonds so easily.Quecumberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16707369292772350787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-81728463449997970542010-01-10T12:55:21.063-08:002010-01-10T12:55:21.063-08:00No such thing as 'real' friends these days...No such thing as 'real' friends these days, only 'associates' who'll try and get in touch with you only when they need something. Vast majority are hypocritical abusers who just use others yet surprisingly they're the most popular people. Great world, eh?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-40921663966169143032009-12-05T22:57:58.645-08:002009-12-05T22:57:58.645-08:00Honestly, I thought I'd be over this by now. B...Honestly, I thought I'd be over this by now. But here I am again, talking about it again- For some reason I've found admitting it to people, but more specifically to myself to help sometimes.<br /><br />I know the feeling of the bumps. I'm no expert, but I guess that is the feeling of a new hair growing or an infection resulting from pulling on the hair... The thing that is sort of "laugh in my face" about it, is that because it's out of my eyes view, it's almost as if it's not even happening sometimes. Why can't my habit be part of pulling the hair out of my face? I hate shaving.<br /><br />I honestly even feel comfortable scratching my head in front of people sometimes, because I know that head scratching is a common sign of "thinking..." A person doesn't really need to scratch their head to think, but when others are around, it lets them know you're busy or that you're trying... I find that when I'm alone working on a mechanical-completely non-personal project, I more readily notice scratching and quickly stop scratching my head and find it utterly wasteful of energy and horribly boring. More than anything I'm ashamed to admit that the habit is so strong that I begin to take any action, in this case scratching without considering it first. I sometimes woefully pride myself on self-awareness.<br /><br />I really think that my head scratching is somehow related to community relationships (what others think).<br /><br />In some ways, I am worried that I may go bald. I think that's a big fear of mine. It's especially frustrating because in my heart, I believe ones looks are valueless. One time I picked at my head a lot intentionally with the thought that I may bald myself intentionally and get it over with! Within a week my head began to hurt and I was finding less hair to pick. That pain reminded me what what I was doing was irrational. Cutting out a mans tongue doesn't necessarily make him want to talk any less.<br /><br />For the past few weeks, I've been steadily slowing myself down, but I got a sharp pain in my head that made me feel like I was going to fall down. Things may have even gotten blurry for a second.<br /><br />Something else which seems to make me want to pull more is when I get little sleep and I'm not thinking well.<br /><br /><b>Running on E</b>:<br />Stress seems to arise when I have too many priorities high on the scale, competing for amounts of contemplation leaving a pond of thought with only mud to extract water from. It is painful.<br /><br />That "mindless" activity settles my desire for control with humiliating and apparently all-comforting acceptance. The fear that arises when I think of this wasteful mindless activity being what it is- a waste when something better could be in the process of completion... That fear feels like a hammer to a nail... Ignorance makes it go away along with the knowledge and power to change... Which feels like nothing... Numbing. Worthless. Which is why I can't just go through life pretending or actually not caring about my habit, whether physical appearance matters or not.Quecumberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16707369292772350787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-31236403337586528682009-12-05T18:54:01.267-08:002009-12-05T18:54:01.267-08:00I am glad to be reading about other people with th...I am glad to be reading about other people with the same problem as me. I feel like its twice as bad because no one knows i have this disease except for my parents and i struggle with it alot. I have done good at just yelling at myself continuously when i feel the urge to pick my hair. I just say stop multiple times and sometimes smack myself really hard in the face haha it seems to work alot. But other times its like something takes over me and i cant keep my hands out of my hair. when i dont pick at it for a while my scalp will form bumps on my head and they will throbe kind of like my body is trying to make me pull my hair out. and i like pulling it out by the bumbs because it makes it sting and the pain of the follicle coming out of the scalp feels so good to me and calms me down. I have been real good at stopping lately but its something serious and i would love someone to get back at me with suggestionsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-85336948599937311752009-10-13T15:51:51.826-07:002009-10-13T15:51:51.826-07:00Anyone know the phone number or e-mail address of ...Anyone know the phone number or e-mail address of whom to get in contact with at Fort Howard to schedule a Ghost Walk? I've searched and searched, but so far no luck. Any help would be appreciated :-) justme135@gmail.comBriannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-45445218751306922022009-04-12T20:19:00.000-07:002009-04-12T20:19:00.000-07:00Wow, I can't believe I found someone who has such ...Wow, I can't believe I found someone who has such a similar issue as me. It makes me feel better.<BR/><BR/>Basically, I rub and scratch my scalp, feeling for little bumps. Like you said, the bumps seem to be hardened oil or extra skin or like a zit- so its seems "good" to scratch it off. Once I feel a bumb, I scratch and pick it till the bump comes off. About 1/3 of the time, there is a hair connected to the ball. This usually happens when I'm studying or at the computer- either stressed or bored, and whenever my scalp feels itchy (which is a lot, it seems- also trying anti-dandruff shampoo). This started about a year ago when I decided to stop biting my nails, and the habit switched to this. It was a very stressful time, as I had recently stopped anti-depressant/anxiety medicine (Lexapro) and had a bunch of life changes. I kept hoping the habit would stop on its own, but now its April and still here. I'm so frustrated.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, what I liked about your blog was that your issue is more about scratching than pulling the hair. All I had read about Trich was about hair-pulling, so I wasn't sure what my issue was. I just came across this site http://www.trich.org/index.html<BR/>that explains how Hair Pulling and Skin Picking are both Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors (BFRBs). Maybe the scalp scratching issue is more of the Skin Picking type.<BR/><BR/>I got some good tips I'm starting to try- like balling up my fists and relaxing when I feel the urge. And I like what you said about dressing up and feeling better about yourself. I find that I have less of an urge to do this when I style my hair and am dressed well with a purpose.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, thanks so much for your post. I wish us both- and everyone else- the best of luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-53908838869072037512009-02-14T12:33:00.000-08:002009-02-14T12:33:00.000-08:00Thank you Anonymous...I'm glad it's helping people...Thank you Anonymous...<BR/><BR/>I'm glad it's helping people.<BR/><BR/>I've actually been doing a lot better lately (up until about 4 days ago- when I realized I was doing a lot better).<BR/><BR/>For the past 2 days though, I've been restraining myself from scratching and pulling... Not completely though.<BR/><BR/>When I look back at the time I started doing better with trich, I notice it was when I started taking more pride in my appearance. I wasn't dressing nice because I had to, I started dressing better because I love my job and for my boss and my co-workers, I wanted to project the best image possible of the company, because I like it and I believe in it...<BR/><BR/>For years I've found it hard to care about my appearance, considering it conceit. Now I realize I can care about my appearance for other reasons than myself and just because I care about my appearance, doesn't mean I have to start judging people for theirs.<BR/><BR/>When I'm at work- or not, whenever the occasion does arise to scratch or pull, I've been continuing to not just make an attempt, but to actually force myself as much as I can to start doing something else. Distracting myself in essence, which ends up taking away so much time from allowing trich that it becomes somewhat forgotten about...<BR/><BR/>I do believe that eventually, I will conquer this problem and I'm on the path to it now. However, just like when I quit smoking, I think I will forever have a small part (though large at first), which wants to continue the old habit. Every time I see someone smoking or smell it... The urge should go down with time as most habits or desires seem to when we've gone without them for a long while.<BR/><BR/>If I hold my hands together, although it may look like I'm praying, I'm really seeing myself winning the battle right before my eyes. Because if my hands are together in front of me, or even in my pockets, or crossed at the arms, then they're not somewhere else. I am physically taking an effort to win the battle by relocating my hands... Perhaps even finding a reason to like them being in their new-found position... E.g. fiddling with the lint in my pocket, or counting the change, or appearing attentive as I sit with hands crossed.<BR/><BR/>On an unrelated, though somewhat inspirational note... At least it has been inspirational for me... My history teacher from high school told us a story about a Track Runner who held a ball in his hand, I think kind of like a hacky sack or stress ball. With that ball, he ran faster and better than everyone else. It was his power ball so to speak, his focal point of attention to divert other attentions. Any attention to "I'm losing" should be diverted to "I'm winning." I suppose the lint, seams, and strings in my pocket could be my power and no one would be the wiser. Even if they knew, I'd feel so much better about having self control that I wouldn't care so much about what people think about my lint.<BR/><BR/>“We are what we repeatedly do. Therefore, excellence is not an act. It is a habit.” — Aristotle<BR/><BR/>When we change our habits we change ourselves. It is impossible to live without habits. Even if one does nothing, they're in the habit of doing nothing. One habit must be replaced by another. Who cares if it's lint, twiddling a pencil around, flipping or coin or whatever, as long as we can control our habits we can control ourselves.<BR/><BR/>A key to knowing what we want to do or to be in our lives is knowing which habits to add, change or drop. I think eventually consciously changing habits will be easy and common knowledge.Quecumberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16707369292772350787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-23059366285409048502009-02-14T00:28:00.000-08:002009-02-14T00:28:00.000-08:00you were good until you mentioned global warming.....you were good until you mentioned global warming....le sigh<BR/>I pull my eyelashes, and im with you re: it plain ass feels good! No excuse as you mentioned self control. Confusing stuff, this is. Keep on talking about it; helps a lot out here, esp. peeps like me<BR/>:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-27059908145147437302008-07-30T08:38:00.000-07:002008-07-30T08:38:00.000-07:00I'm actually going to visit a Psych (specifically ...I'm actually going to visit a Psych (specifically a behaviorist)later today for the first time to see if they can help me get rid of the habit.<BR/><BR/>I'll be throwing up the details on my <A HREF="http://www.thebigbags.com" REL="nofollow">blog</A>.Bagshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11098978489370757418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-18878053709899562072008-07-30T06:46:00.000-07:002008-07-30T06:46:00.000-07:00I have trichotillomania - I pull out hair mainly a...I have trichotillomania - I pull out hair mainly around my crown. I came across this post just doing a search for trich. I have to say I do not have the same symptoms as you involving the scratching, but I bet you there are others that do. Perhaps you might find it helpful to get in contact, through forums etc? Anyway, i have my own blog too and I find writing about it is good as it makes you accept it as part of you, and not just completely hate it. But you seem to be doing a good job at that already. Good luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-103356057861424262008-07-29T14:33:00.000-07:002008-07-29T14:33:00.000-07:00Well I started to scratch this morning and I stopp...Well I started to scratch this morning and I stopped myself. I haven't scratched since today. I've been thinking about wearing a hat just so I can't scratch my head... Sort of muzzling myself... I've done it a little bit before, because when I scratch my head particles get into my eyes and cause itching, pain, and sty's. So I wear a hat to prevent my eyes from burning while I'm driving. Sometimes I have an eye sty all day long, or more than one... They're usually about the size and feeling of a grain of sand. lol. Sometimes I even keep an eye closed for 20 minutes or so... I've gotten so used to washing my eyes out that I very often just put my head under the sink and run water in my eyes... I suppose that's one way to get over my problem of opening my eyes while swimming.<BR/><BR/><B>So yeah, with some humility via muzzling, some luck.</B>Quecumberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16707369292772350787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-26315067787537163412008-07-29T10:17:00.000-07:002008-07-29T10:17:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-37031784215898176982008-07-29T10:15:00.000-07:002008-07-29T10:15:00.000-07:00I feel your pain brother.God knows how im going to...I feel your pain brother.<BR/>God knows how im going to stop<BR/>as well.<BR/>Any luck yet?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-83348489244014871442008-05-20T06:45:00.000-07:002008-05-20T06:45:00.000-07:00AVOID THIS SITE. Shutterstock customer service is ...AVOID THIS SITE. Shutterstock customer service is absolutely shocking. i called up to see if i could download multiple images at the same time from a lightbox, instead of having to go into each one and download it manually. to me, this is pretty basic stuff. if you go buy something from an online shop, you don't fill your shopping cart then proceed to pay for each one individually? <BR/><BR/>the guy on the other end was an ass. simple and plain. he went on the offensive basically just told me to deal with it and stop complaining. <BR/><BR/>the site doesn't work intuitively, the functionality is rubbish and the customer service is crap. SAVE YOUR MONEY. AVOID THIS SITE.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-11327841688484411022008-04-27T19:12:00.000-07:002008-04-27T19:12:00.000-07:00Hehehe.. That's like mean funny... But funny nonet...Hehehe.. That's like mean funny... But funny nonetheless... heheheAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-51010361639808796442008-03-11T17:01:00.000-07:002008-03-11T17:01:00.000-07:00Hi, David -- thanks for the link! :o)Hi, David -- thanks for the link! :o)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-63096978020260500032008-02-12T18:11:00.000-08:002008-02-12T18:11:00.000-08:00hey david, thanks for the tag. I'll do this one b...hey david, thanks for the tag. I'll do this one but I can't promise when since I still have a backlog of pending tags screaming for attention. thanks for dropping by.<BR/><BR/>keep on blogging!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-29820135029494027462008-02-12T17:27:00.000-08:002008-02-12T17:27:00.000-08:00Hey thanks a bunch for doing the meme. When I did...Hey thanks a bunch for doing the meme. When I did this meme, I also had to get out of my comfort zone and try something different. It was kind a fun, isn't it? I like your answers, that's for sure.<BR/><BR/>Also who would've thought to check Swollen Pickles as the source of blogging inspiration? :-)<BR/><BR/>Thanks again!Rudyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12638843189851649987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-2545396814186845182008-02-12T14:26:00.000-08:002008-02-12T14:26:00.000-08:00ughmm. can you edit the last part? i forgot to del...ughmm. can you edit the last part? i forgot to delete something. it should have gone this way:<BR/><BR/>"I just chose to <B>repost</B> it there to remind me of my mistakes too. "Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11847027.post-18083323800109638022008-02-12T14:24:00.000-08:002008-02-12T14:24:00.000-08:00Hey!thanks for the comment.That was an old old pos...Hey!<BR/><BR/>thanks for the comment.<BR/><BR/>That was an old old post written when I was still with friendster blogs. It's made out of impulse and the original had more syntactic errors than that one.<BR/><BR/>The two of us settled our differences already and we're working hand in hand since then. He even celebrated several masses for the organization I once headed. <BR/><BR/>I just chose to reposted it there to remind me of my mistakes too. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for the tag. <BR/><BR/>--hmmm. I guess I'm gonna repost this one in my blog too heheAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com